You, just like everybody else in the world, may be prone to one or many of the ten dumbest mistakes smart people make. Now, Dr. Arthur Freeman and Rose DeWolf offer clear, practical advice and concrete techniques to help you combat selfdefeating thinking and gain greater control of your life, work, and personal relationships. Arm yourself with this one right away.

CUSTOMER REVIEWS (Average Customer Rating: 4.5 based on 6 reviews)

Authoritatively Written With A Gentle Tone, but a Firm Hand

One of the few superlative books in the self-help realm, this one really breaks down the faulty thinking processes we engage in and gives them easy to understand labels as we learn to eliminate them from our lives. Contrary to the absolutely fatuously-titled review: "Good for defining problem, minimal for helping with it" there are whole chapters here dealing with nothing other than "helping with it" including no less than 18 specific techniques for dealing with the various types of problems covered here, and which are handled here with plenty of detail and practical advice for me. I would suggest ignoring this other reviewer who sounds like he has little or no expertise in the self-help area and buy this book! I promise you will thank me!
April 06, 2005

Best thing about this book...

is that it made me actually stop and think about all the stupid things we people sometimes do to ourselves that make us go crazy for no good reason other then our own over-exaggerating thoughts. If we only learn to alter the way we think, the world would be a much much better place to live. You can definitely learn a lot from this book...especially for young adolescents, this book can the teach the young very early on in life how to prepare yourself for the inevitable as they get older. For example, I thought about this book one day while I was driving with my family on the highway during Thanksgiving Day. There happened to be some crazy driver driving almost 90 MPH and swirving dangerously among the other cars. All of a sudden, I made a witty remark stating, "Geez, that driver must really be in a hurry to eat some turkey." Once I said that, everybody in the car started laughing. Instead of getting mad at the crazy driver for driving so carelessly, "I" chose to reinstate my thoughts about him and reaasure everybody that even an annoying situation such as that, should not bring you down unless you choose to let it bring you down.
May 10, 2004

A Great Book

This book has helped me in many ways. I highly reccomend it to anyone who suffers from anxiety. The techniques are practical and easily applied. The book is easy to read and understand. You may also use it as a reference to make sure you are using the techniques properly.
June 25, 2003

Good for defining problem, minimal for helping with it

The ten items listed as the dumbest mistakes were interesting as was the discussion as to how the authors chose those particular mistakes and why. The primary value to the book is if you find one or two of the mistakes that you make on a regular basis. Unfortunately they are then followed by several paragraphs of how to deal with that problem. There are several full length books available on how to deal with just one of these problems. It appears that these authors think that in a few paragraphs they can resolve problems that others take a whole book to deal with. That being said, this book does have a value. I don't think that I would recommend it to someone who makes one or more of these mistakes on a regular basis and wishes to do something about it. For them I would suggest a book that deals more directly with their problem. However, it is an enlightening book for people who might read through it and find something that describes them. That information and the techniques described to help with the situation might be just what they need to go further and seek more thorough help. It is a good book to help you more clearly define a problem so that you can seek out other appropriate book to treat the problem.
September 28, 2001

Will greatly improve your life

This is one of the most helpful books I have ever read. It lets you recognise patterns of thinking that leads to unhappiness and lost potential. It then gives simple and practical techniques to alternative ways of thinking that will greatly improve the quality of your life.From the way it is written , it shows that the authors have a lot of experience .Most people will have at least one of these mistakes, and I'm sure this book will be a turning point in their lifes.Very highly recommended.
November 01, 1999

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