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| View Larger Image | The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Turn the End of a Relationship into the Beginning of a New Life
by Susan Anderson
| | List Price: | $15.00 | | Price: | $10.20 | | You Save: | $4.80 (32%) |  | | Available: | Usually ships in 24 hours | | | | | Sales Rank: | 7624 | | Studio: | Berkley Trade | | | Binding: | Paperback | | Number Of Pages: | 352 | | Publication Date: | March 01, 2000 | | Publisher: | Berkley Trade |
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EDITORIAL REVIEWS |
Book Description
Like Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's groundbreaking On Death and Dying, Susan Anderson's book clearly defines the five phases of a different kind of grieving--grieving over a lost relationship. An experienced professional who has specialized in helping people with loss, heartbreak, and abandonment for more than two decades, Susan Anderson gives this subject the serious attention it deserves. The Journey From Abandonment to Healing is designed to help all victims of emotional breakups--whether they are suffering from a recent loss, or a lingering wound from the past; whether they are caught up in patterns that sabotage their own relationships, or they're in a relationship where they no longer feel loved. From the first stunning blow to starting over, it provides a complete program for abandonment recovery.
"If there can be a pill to cure the heartbreak of rejection, this book may be it."-- Rabbi Harold Kushner, bestselling author of When Bad Things Happen to Good People
In the tradition of Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross's On Death and Dying--but dealing with the grief over the loss of a relationship
Helps readers work through the five universal phases of abandonment: shattering, withdrawal, internalizing, rage, lifting
Includes hands-on exercises for managing pain and rediscovering the capacity for love |
CUSTOMER REVIEWS (Average Customer Rating: 4.5 based on 32 reviews)
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Not that helpful for me 
If you are having a really hard time with your self esteem after your separation, this book may really help you out. I bought it about 3 months after being left by my husband of 13 years. I had already done a lot of soul searching and did not feel like I could not go on. I found myself skimming through most of the book and did not find the exercises to be terribly helpful in my situation. It focuses most on getting through the initial shock/pain and low self esteem that is associated with blaming yourself for the whole situation. I was already past the shock and while willing to acknowledge my own mistakes in our marriage, did not feel that the failure was entirely was my fault.
August 09, 2008 | |
Encouraging and insightful 
This book is insightful, personal, and well-written. Please take the time to review the Outer Child vs. Inner Child behavior traits listed in this book. You'll probably recognize your own behaviors there. Dr. Anderson also outlines the five stages of hurt by abandonment, and five steps of healing. This book encourages self discovery and emotional recovery. I would reccommend it to anyone who has been through a devastating break-up and/or has experienced feelings of abandonment; and is now ready to start chipping away at the hurt.
August 06, 2008 | |
The Journey from Abandonment to Healing
I enjoyed reading Susan Anderson's book. It was very insightful. Dr. Anderson's book has been recommended to me by many left behind spouses on internet forums dealing with relationships and divorces.
At first I thought I was going to read a run of the mill book about abandonment and all the bad and negatives that comes with that....you know the same old advice everyone gives, "Blah, blah, blah, abandonment's real bad and get on with your life....." But instead of giving me the "get over it advice," I felt I learned much more about myself.
Dr. Anderson's book helped me to open my eyes to my own reality and that I was no stranger to abandonment. I didn't connect that my recent loss/divorce was not my first and that my abandonment extended into my childhood when my father left us when I was a child.
Dr. Anderson's book helped me to deal with my losses and to view my experience as a portal into a new life. I feel the book has helped me to face my greatest fear....abandonment, and to embrace it, accept it, and to move on to a better life without being afraid.
I think once someone has faced their greatest fear and made to deal with it head on ...that person become fearless and it's at that point when that person is truely free to live their life unafraid.
I highly recommend this life changing book.
July 10, 2008 | |
Changed my life
I struggled for years to get over an abusive marriage and the loss of my mother at 9. I picked up this book after a bad relationship in which I was, once again, loved and abandoned. I didn't know I had abandonment issues until I looked at this book. I related to every chapter as I healed from that relationship and let me see that the loss of my mother and other relationships I had left me broken and picking people in my life who would abandon me emotionally again and again. Life's path will circle and repeat until you have awareness and learn to jump off onto another path. Hard to do but well worth it. I'm on my path toward healing now. All the relationships in my life are healthy. My new husband treats me with respect and love like I have never had before. Thankyou Susan Anderson! If you have issues with losing a mother, read "Motherless daughters." Another book that really hit home.
May 12, 2008 | |
Thank God, she wrote this book!!!!
Other readers have written very beautifully about this book. I will not attempt to duplicate their thoughts. Listen to me carefully. Susan Anderson's book is magnificent. She poured her heart and soul into every sentence in this beautifully written book about the journey from abandonment to healing. You need to know that regardless of how bad things are, and what you are suffering from, there is a universal journey that we must all go through.
Life is hills and valley, mountains and the abyss. We cannot hope to live an extraordinary life, a life truly worth living unless we are willing to have our hearts broken. Nobody gets to SAIL through life except for those who live in a fantasy world. In living an extraordinary life we must take personal risks in our relationships, and those risks sometimes turn into mistakes. The mistakes are heart wrenching because of the abandonment, and that is where this book unlike anything I will ever hope to read, can truly change the course of our lives.
How is it possible that a book, any book can truly reshape our thinking, and have long term positive effects on the course of our lives. Surely, this is too much to ask of any written document, but that is precisely the promise that this book delivers on. Every now and then, I pick it up, and just re-read certain sections to renew my understanding of the cycles of life.
No matter how deep the pain may be that you are going through, this book is better than sitting down with a therapist session after session, pouring your heart out to someone that may not even be hearing you. Susan Anderson truly understands what each of us is going through. She is successful in conveying to us that whatever it is we are suffering from, whatever it is that causes us to believe that we are being abandoned, it is TEMPORARY, and life will get better. We will heal, and be renewed, and if we use the pain we are going through correctly, we will grow out of the abandonment and be much, much better human beings for having gone through the experience. How could anyone benefit so much from a book, but yet it's all true.
If you are going through a divorce, or a separation, you must read this book, because you need help and you need it NOW. Listen to just a few of the things Anderson says about the first stage of abandonment which is "Shattering".
It is a "Tear in the dense tissues of human attachment. It is a feeling of devastation, unbearable pain. It is a powerful neurobiological process. It is the birth trauma revisited. It is rebirth. It is the breaking up of the storm clouds, the clearing of new sky. Shattering is a bottom - a transforming bottom - the same bottom from which people over the ages have found redemption."
Is it possible that anyone, even the poets through the ages, could write so beautifully of an experience that goes right to the heart of the matter? The book is optimistic. Your life will get better. You will get better, and you will live a better life once you come out of the temporary hell that we all have to go through every now and then, and hopefully, just hopefully, we never have to go through this experience again. I wish you luck on your JOURNEY, and let this book be your guide.
Regards,
Richard C. Stoyeck
April 15, 2008 | |
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