Product Description
"Some readers may recognize their mothers as well as themselves in this book. They will also find specific suggestions for creating healthier relationships. Addressing the adult children of borderlines and the therapists who work with them, Dr. Lawson shows how to care for the waif without rescuing her, to attend to the hermit without feeding her fear, to love the queen without becoming her subject, and to live with the witch without becoming her victim."

CUSTOMER REVIEWS (Average Customer Rating: 4.5 based on 103 reviews)

Thanks for helping my sis, bro, and I understand our mum

My bro, sis and I have all read this book. Our childhood was like growing up in a psyche ward--except that one of the patients was the warden. I'm 42 years old and I have 2 recurring nightmares--one of which is that I am forced to live with my parents again. I spend the whole time trying to escape from them (literally). Mum's beyond help, but this book has helped us siblings greatly as we try to sort thru the fallout of it all (and try to salvage a relationship with our father). This book also deals with the guys who marry these women.

If you're going to buy only one book on BP disorders in mums, this is it.
November 15, 2008

informative book

very helpful and easy to read. I liked how they categorized different types of borderline traits (waif, witch, etc.). It was also nice that the author pointed out that a person who has BPD doesn't necessarily fit into a specific category- they can have different traits from various categories. It also gives a perspective on how it effects children raised by mothers diagnosed with BPD.
October 21, 2008

Dealing with a borderline mother

I had read everything I could on borderline personality disorder to try and understand my daughter-in-law. It wasn't until I read Dr. Lawson's book that I truly understood the depth of this disorder. She describes BPD as the mother relates to her children. I thought the book too expensive and almost didn't buy it, but if you read anything at all you should read this one. It should be required reading before ever getting married and certainly anyone trying to help their kids through the borderline crisis.
October 12, 2008

very informative

This book was very informative. It describes four profiles of borderline mothers and how their behaviors can impact their children. It provides suggestions for how children can deal with their mothers and try to have the best possible relationship and stay healthy.
October 01, 2008

Very helpful

I thought this book was very helpful and informative. It made me feel less alone, though it brought up a lot of emotions. I have a borderline mother and I myself was hospitalized for it. After 6 years of therapy and three hospitalizations I felt I had completely found my way out and gotten better. Though I had done a lot of work I realized when reading this book how much more work I can and should do. It also helps me understand and sympathize with my mother and her intense personality much better. Or at least it's starting to. I highly recommend it.
September 06, 2008

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