Product Description
We are social beings. Our lives are connected to hundreds of others by ties both intimate and formal, casual and lifelong. Secure, trusting relationships form the foundation for many of our more positive and rewarding experiences. But when individuals lose their capacity to trust others because of some painful past experience, their ability to function in our interconnected, social world is severely limited. This book proposes a series of strategies anyone can use to help learn how, when, and whom to trust.

Grounding this book is the author's own concept of the three core selves: the adult, the child, and the protector. Each of these personae influences trust. With a clearer understanding of how and why their own personal trust pattern functions, readers will use the book's cognitive behavioral exercises to help rewrite negative messages of shame, betrayal, and hurt that often underlie unhealthy patterns of trust. The new skills the book teaches will help readers have faith in their instincts, develop healthy relationships, and let go of negative experiences that have made trusting frightening and difficult.

CUSTOMER REVIEWS (Average Customer Rating: 4.5 based on 9 reviews)

I Don't Trust An Author Who Lauds Herself As "A Gifted Seminar Leader" On The Book Jacket

This book is a great start for people wanting to explore this subject.

However, if you have serious trust issues, the book may come across as trite and trivializing. Ms. Wall's feel-good platitudes may not apply across the board. Survivors of severe abuse and betrayal might want to look elsewhere.

January 09, 2008

Learning to be trustworthy

I recently had someone come back into my life that I lied to by omission. Our second time around he was having trouble trusting me. I told a white lie and he blew up. I was sitting there scratching my head thinking what's his problem. I decided to order some books about trust to get a handle on my issue with lying. This book has shown me why I choose to not be truthfull all the time. I am trying to protect myself from how I think the person will react by knowing the truth. I'm not trustfull or trustworthy. I this book is really helping me see a better way to be.
April 25, 2006

A primer on trust

The issue of trust -- of others and of myself -- comes up all the time. Whom do I really trust, and how do I build trust with people whom I would like to trust more? How much can I safely let back in people who have betrayed my trust in the past? What moves can I make that will make me more trustworthy? Cynthia Wall's exercises are often helpful in clarifying underlying blocks, allowing me to go much deeper into the real issues.

I am in a process of exploring this issue with my women's group this year; it's a very rich and scary topic. The Courage to Trust is a valuable, compassionate guide for us in this exploration. I think anyone who has ever been betrayed or disappointed by someone will find helpful support in this beautifully and thoughtfully written book.
January 19, 2006

connecting to your trust issues

For any of you who have been hurt--by a dysfunctional family situation or an adult betrayal--this book is helping me to connect how the past is inhibiting me from having all life has to offer. After reading the first 20 pages, I had a few tactics and goals to make a difference in my life. It also confirmed for me that self-trust is the basis for the other types. It's well worth the investment in time and money.
September 26, 2005

Very informative

Good at helping to understand why we react in a protective manner when we feel threatened.
September 06, 2005

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