Product Description
Do You Have An Aging Parent Who --Blames you for everything that goes wrong?Cannot tolerate being alone, wants you all the time?Is obsessed with health problems, real, or imagined?Make unreasonable and/or irrational demands of you?Is hostile, negative and critical? Coping with these traits in parents is an endless high-stress battle for their children. Though there's no medical defination for "difficult" parents, you know when you have one. While it's rare for adults to change their ways late in life, you can stop the vicious merry-go-round of anger, blame, guilt and frustration.For the first time, here's a common-sense guide from professionals, with more than two decades in the field, on how to smooth communications with a challenging parent. Filled with practical tips for handling contentious behaviors and sample dialogues for some of the most troubling situations, this book addresses many hard issues, including: How to tell your parent he or she cannot live with you. How to avoid the cycle of nagging and recriminations How to prevent your parent's negativity from overwhelming you. How to deal with an impaired parent who refuses to stop driving. How to asses the risk factors in deciding whether a parent is still able to live alone.

CUSTOMER REVIEWS (Average Customer Rating: 4.5 based on 44 reviews)

It's like my own Mother was interviewed for the book! by Karen Vasser (Los Altos, Ca USA)

3 Stars
October 23, 2009
My brother sent me the link for this book on Amazon, we could not believe the outline - that was our 89 year old Mother who has been stressing all of us out! It was very comforting to know we are not alone, and the suggestions in the book helped to support what we were doing and try to not feel as guilty. After all, with the difficult older parent, it is all about guilt - and them! I suppose it's rather mean to be comforted in the fact that other people have as difficult a parent as we do, we thought our Mom was unique. The strength in numbers, and having an actual book to validate the steps we are taking to care for her, and our feelings. I think it will be a Christmas present for my three brothers.

Coping with your difficult parent by Mrs. Nora R. Cassidy (Toledo, Ohio)

5 Stars
August 12, 2009
Great book! Helps you see things from your parents' perspective and understand what they are going through. Highly recommend to any one dealing with a difficult parent.

Helpful strategies for dealing with challenging mother or father behaviors by Jamieson Haverkampf (Atlanta, GA)

5 Stars
March 16, 2009
Coping with Your Difficult Older Parent, written by the cofounders of Aging Network Services of Bethesda, Maryland, explores strategies for challenging mother or father behaviors. The book shows specific dialogues on how to handle difficult communication, such as telling your parent he or she cannot move in with you or how to deal with a parent who makes consistent unreasonable demands on your time. --Jamieson Haverkampf, author of the 4-time award-winning 500+ resource guide Mom Minus Dad Mom Minus Dad: The Essential Resource Guide for Busy Adults with a Newly Widowed Parent

Informative but... by J. Davy (Maryland)

4 Stars
November 17, 2008
...dry. Lots of useful information, but I prefer Elder Rage by Jacqueline Marcell for an informative book that is very readable. I found myself skipping chapters in Coping that I felt were not relevent and skimming topics that seemed to fit. Lots of clinical examples and dialogs. I highlighted a lot of this book and passed it along to my brothers so they could better care for our mom. Useful, but not a page turner.

didn't meet my needs by bahgainhunter (USA)

5 Stars
October 26, 2008
This book addresses some of the "normal" problems or issues adult children may encounter as their parents age, for instance, how to coax a parent to stop driving when the parent can no longer do so safely. The book doesn't address how adult survivors of dysfunctional families can handle truly "difficult" parents as they age. I'd have been glad to have had the kinds of "difficult" parents described in this book! This book appears to use the word "difficult" to mean, essentially, "inconvenient."

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