| View Larger Image | Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior | Paperbackby Mark Goulston (Author), Philip Goldberg (Author)
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| | Binding: | Paperback | | Publisher: | Perigee Trade | | Page Count: | 208 Pages | | Publication Date: | February 01, 1996 | | Sales Rank: | 17,782th |
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Procrastination...Envy...Anger...Self-pity...Compulsion....In any of its many forms, self-defeating behavior is the single most common reason that people seek psychotherapy. It is a poison that prevents people from achieving the love, success, and happiness they desire. Get Out of Your Own Way is an antidote, explaining the reasons for self-sabotage by going back to the childhood origins of various behaviors. With anecdotes and usable insights drawn from twenty years of psychiatric clinical practice, Dr. Mark Goulston shares ideas that have helped thousands of patients overcome pain, fear, and confusion-to approach life's challenges with dignity, wisdom, courage, and even humor. |
CUSTOMER REVIEWS (Average Customer Rating: 4.5 based on 35 reviews)
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SHALLOW, MOST OF THE MATERIAL IS OBVIOUS by NO HYPE REVIEWS  2 Stars
November 29, 2009
This book purports to give you clues as to actions and activities that you take that are preventing you from achieving success and happiness. While this is a very worthwhile objective, most, but not all, of what Dr. Goulston "reveales" is so obvious that anyone even remotely interested in their own psychology would already know it. For some examples, he "reveals" on page 11 that you shouldn't excessively procrastinate. On page 6 he tells you not to get involved with the wrong people. On page 96 he says don't have unrealistic expectations; how about on page 54 he discloses the "startling" observation that people will get upset with you if you break your promises to them. Well "Duh"
While there's not enough of them, there are a small amount of points that are not obvious and are somewhat useful; these and the even fewer really good tips is why I gave the book 2 stars. For example, if you've made a mistake and done something to hurt somebody it often isn't enough to simply say, "I'm sorry". He discusses, in some detail, the proper steps to go through, notice I said the plural steps not just single step, as the proper way to soothe hurt feelings. An example of, at least for me who tends to give advice, of a really good point was his discussion of the fact that very often people, while they may appreciate your information, really came to you just to be able to share what they're feeling with somebody who cares. That usually isn't what jumps right into my head first thing. Being a problem solver type, I can't imagine why they would be telling me about this situation unless they wanted information or an answer. The expression Dr. Ghoulston used I thought was particularly well stated, "People often don't care how much you know until they know how much you care."
BTW: On the other hand his new book, "Just Listen", which I'm halfway through reading and will review shortly, is absolutely awesome when it comes to dealing with people who are upset either with you or in general. It calls on his experience as a hostage negotiator, and his experience shows in his latest book!
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Excellent Read! by Nic (South Dakota)  5 Stars
October 04, 2009
This book was great! I think it's one of the most helpful books I have ever read. It deals with many different topics but somehow still gets to the heart of each one. Excellent!
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What I was looking for...sort of. by A. Clark (California)  4 Stars
April 09, 2009
I am a pretty typical procrastinator coupled with a possible fear of success or failure or something...havent figured it all out yet, but this book was helpful. I liked it, its a keeper and I will definitely pick it up from time to time. It was easy to read, got to the point and was somewhat throught provoking. It gave clear examples of what 'lesson' was trying to be taught.
I do wish there was just a tiny bit more insight on some of it. Seems almost 'shallow' (which is coming out harsher than meant to be) becuase some of the issues discussed in the book hit right on the money, however it did not always have a lot of in depth detail on HOW to overcome certain things. I read certain parts and thought ' ok, that's me. how do I overcome it' reading on, I suppose I was looking for some specific directions, which isnt exactly realistic. I needed to figure that out on my own. Eventually the book's pages lead me to analyze more of my behavior and figure out how to get around doing some of the annoying things I do. I'm still a work in progress, but the book DID help and it DID open my eyes to some behaviors, how to avoid them and a different outlook.
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Are you kidding? And save your money! by SKS  1 Stars
January 09, 2009
Hands down the WORST self-help book I have ever attempted to read. Useless. Unhelpful. Basic. Boring. Now in my trash. Screams 1996. Offers nothing new. Gives no insights, no references, no guides, no advice, no solutions, just provides really boring, short, basic stories. Ugh. I just can't get over how bad it was. There are so many good books out there, skip this one. I wish I could have just taken one piece of advice from this book and put it to use, but just couldn't.
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helpful by Caitlin Corso (cape may county, nj) 5 Stars
November 29, 2008
i would def recommend this book, im not even done reading it but its defiantly helpful
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