| View Larger Image | It's My Life Now: Starting Over After an Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence, 2nd Edition | Paperbackby Meg Kennedy Dugan (Author), Roger R. Hock (Author)
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| | Binding: | Paperback | | Publisher: | Brunner-Routledge | | Edition: | 2nd Edition | | Page Count: | 256 Pages | | Publication Date: | May 05, 2006 | | Sales Rank: | 36,019th |
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Book Description Those who have never experienced an abusive or violent relationship often believe that upon finding their way out, victims' difficulties are solved: their life is good, they are safe, and recovery will be swift. However, survivors of abuse know that leaving is not the end of the nightmare; it is the beginning of a difficult journey toward healing and happiness. It's My Life Now offers readers the practical guidance, emotional reassurance, and psychological awareness that survivors of relationship abuse and domestic violence need to help them heal and reclaim their lives after leaving their abusers. Since its publication in 2000, It's My Life Now has been highly successful as a working manual for survivors who are starting their lives over after an abusive relationship, combining guidance on practical and emotional issues with worksheets and self-exploration exercises. In the second edition, Dugan and Hock include updated information and resources while encompassing a wider range of individuals. Download Description A book for survivors of an abusive relationship, no matter how much time has passed since the abuse occurred. This book provides accessible, practical information on how to protect yourself once you've left the relationship and how to get through the difficult emotions that accompany leaving and rebuilding an abuse-free, effective life. |
CUSTOMER REVIEWS (Average Customer Rating: 4.5 based on 9 reviews)
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This book rescued me by L. Shapiro (Virginia, USA)  4 Stars
March 11, 2009
I came across this book when I was at the point of recognizing that I was in an abusive relationship. Upon recommendation, I read it. It gave me the courage to talk with friends and family to build my support network before leaving him, and it ultimately gave me the courage, tools, insight, and foresight to leave. It was my secret weapon against him, to be able to recognize the manipulative, controlling, abusive behaviors he exhibited, and to know the lines he was going to throw at me when I told him I was leaving.
After I left my abuser, I found the book just as helpful. It helped me to recognize and understand the whirlwind of feelings I was going through. The activities were integral in my healing process.
I have recommended this book to others (even strangers) who I have found to be in abusive relationships, and I will continue to recommend it.
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excellent book by Brandy Davenport (texas)  5 Stars
January 06, 2009
i loved this book. the shipper shipped it quickly and it arrived in perfect condition.
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Not for someone stuck in the healing process by Bernadette (Long Island, NY)  2 Stars
January 01, 2009
I was looking for a book that dealt with healing after you left the relationship. The main focus of this book was on issues relevant to someone who has decided to leave and the time immediately after. Loving again was addressed in the last chapter and while very good on warning signs of a potential abuser and how to determine if you are ready for a new relationship there was nothing on how to get from "I am safe now" to "I am ready to start looking for a new relationship." The author points out that you have to feel worthy and have good self-esteem but not how to get there. What it did include was very good but most people would have come across that material in a book on abusive relationships. Beverly Engel is my favorite author on abusive relationships.
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An Invaluable Help in the Healing Process by Sarah P. Dumigron (Scranton, PA United States) 5 Stars
August 28, 2008
It's My Life Now fills an important gap in the literature on domestic violence. There are several great books out there that help bring the abused to the point of recognizing that they are in an abusive relationship that they must escape. These books help clarify the patterns and cycles that are common to so many abusive relationships. When searching for help and healing myself, I largely encountered books that told me how to get out, get safe, and (had I any children) get custody. But at that point, I had already fought my way out of my abuser's grasp and was searching for something to help me untangle the webs of control, humiliation, and verbal abuse I had endured. I was also struggling with difficult feelings of guilt, loss, and anger that I needed some guidance to process. That is where this book came in: the practical guide to regaining yourself after enduring abuse and/or violence.
What is so valuable and remarkable about this book, compared to many others, is that it walks the abused through the complicated (and admittedly frightening) time AFTER she gets out of the relationship.
It begins with the typical identification of abuse and abusive behaviors, but as this book is written for those who have already left their abuser, this list serves a different purpose. In an incredibly reassuring and helpful chapter that addresses the feelings of love for the abuser that may still remain, we are asked to make a list of the qualities that were attractive in him in the first place. Then, we return to the initial chapter's list of abusive behaviors and make a list of what type of abuses were committed and with what frequency. The positive list serves to reassure the abused that she had compelling reasons for being attracted to the abuser, while the abuses list reminds her that the abuser (however charming) is not who he seemed. There are many more simple, journal-style exercises that I found important for gaining insight and perspective.
The book addresses key issues I encountered in the uncomfortable period that ensued within one week or two of leaving my abuser. The author also recommends that readers return to these topics and exercises one month later, for comparison. (Perspective is everything.) I have emphatically recommended this book to the women I have met in domestic violence support groups, who have returned nothing but praise for the usefulness, pertinence and clarity of It's My Life Now. I have found it invaluable in my own process and will continue to refer to it when I require strength or guidance.
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one of my saviors. by T. Teuscher (NYC, NY) 5 Stars
June 26, 2008
After coming out of an abusive marriage, I was desperate. This book was one of my saviors. It helped to make sense of so much, without feeling ashamed or guilty. I recomend it to anyone who thinks they might have been abused, physically, emotionally, financially.... It's kind of like a best friend.
In other words a great read.
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