| View Larger Image | Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men | Paperbackby Lundy Bancroft (Author)
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| | Binding: | Paperback | | Publisher: | Berkley Trade | | Page Count: | 432 Pages | | Publication Date: | September 02, 2003 | | Sales Rank: | 4,567th |
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"He doesn't mean to hurt me-he just loses control." "He can be sweet and gentle." "He's scared me a few times, but he never hurts the children-he's a great father." "He's had a really hard life..." Women in abusive relationships tell themselves these things every day. Now they can see inside the minds of angry and controlling men-and change their own lives. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor shows how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship, with: € The early warning signs € Nine abusive personality types € How to tell if an abuser can change, is changing, or ever will € The role of drugs and alcohol € What can be fixed, and what can't € How to leave a relationship safely |
CUSTOMER REVIEWS (Average Customer Rating: 4.5 based on 241 reviews)
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Insightful & accurate by freeatlast (Oregon, USA)  5 Stars
November 27, 2009
Even though the author prefaces with, "the intention is not for you to read this & relive your experience", I have to admit, I had to book the book down after only reading a few pages. Once I realized that I was safe in my own environment, I, also slightly hesitantly, started reading again. This time, I could not stop reading. Some parts of the book were uncomfortable, but only because it was real. Then, the payoff: finding out why he had behaved the way he did & to be reassured that it really was not my fault.
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Mr. Bancroft saved my life!!!!! by Mom of 6 good kids 5 Stars
November 23, 2009
If I had one book to give to every woman in the world this would be it. Abusive men have become an epidemic it this country and women are marring them totally unaware that they are even abusive, all they know is "something is not quite right". This book explains exactly what is not right with him.
It literally saved my life. After 10 years of marriage I was suicidal from my husband tearing down my self esteem little by little; slowly and methodically. I never would have called him abusive before, but know I know he is......and why. He had me thinking it was all my fault and I was the one who was messed up or "too sensitive".
Reading the book was like opening a door and letting in all the light to my confusion. Lundy Bancroft doesn't just know the mind of the abuser but the minds of the abused woman as well. It also helped me formulate a plan for getting out of the relationship and how to do it safely. He does say there is hope for some men who really want to change but it's a long process.
I have to say thank you to Mr. Bancroft for being an ally to women and for all his work with abusive men. Wonderful and well written book!
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WHY DOES HE DO THAT ? by DOLF VANKESTEREN 5 Stars
November 21, 2009
THIS OUTSTANDING MATERIAL NEEDS TO BE READ BY YOUNG AND OLD, RICH AND
POOR, CORPORATE EXECUTIVES AND ESPECIALLY "YOU".
YOU WILL REFLECT IN BOTH THE PRESENT AND WHAT WE DID YESTERDAY.
LUNDY BANCROFT AN EXCELLENT SKILLED AUTHOR, DEALING WITH THE FASCINATING INVESTIGATIONS INTO WHAT MAKE ABUSIVE MAN CLICK, PRETTY ALARMING. ENJOY THIS READ !
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Absolutely Excellent!! 5 Stars
November 13, 2009
By far this is the best book I've read on emotional/physical abuse in that it delves deeper into the "whys" and "hows" of abuse much deeper than other books. Anyone going through an abusive experience should read this book - I highly recommend it!!
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Personal and disturbing, a definite read if you want to know the truth. by S. Lewis (La Mesa, CA USA) 5 Stars
November 11, 2009
I never understood what I was going through. I never experienced this before and thought "it has to be me", "I must be doing something to cause this terror". I just couldn't understand "why". I was living a truly awful and real experience that I thought would never change. After finally breaking my silence to a respite care worker she recommended I read "Why Does He Do That" by Lundy Bancroft. It brought me into a painful and tearful truth that shook me to the core. It hurt to read yet gave me a revelation, an understanding that freed me. What disturbs me the most is that it wasn't just my truth written on each page. There are still many others that are going through the same emotional, physical and mental battle everyday. If you have the courage, strength and the will power to be free, take the time to read this book. You are not alone in your struggle. It gives resources and help that can take you out of your dark situation and into a freedom you deserve. Talk to someone you can trust and never give up!
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