Product Description
Drawing on case studies, a psychotherapist offers guidelines to help singles and spouses decide whether to leave a relationship or whether enough good remains to make it worth working through conflicts. Reprint."

CUSTOMER REVIEWS (Average Customer Rating: 4.5 based on 124 reviews)

Helps you "get off the fence." by Sans Drama (Seattle, WA)

5 Stars
October 06, 2009
This book is a great tool for someone trying to decide if they should "stick in there" and work on the relationship, or move on and get on with your life. I personally have been in marriage counseling off and on for more than 10 years. This book has given me more clarity and peace about the situation than even the counseling. I feel that it is neutral - it doesn't seem slanted towards or away from divorce. It provides practical, logical questions for you to answer and get real about your situation. It gives 36 diagnostic questions for you to plow through and think about. In addition it gives examples of individual stories of people who have "been there" regarding the topic at hand. I feel this is a practical, logical book to help you get off the fence and either spur you on to invest more in a relationship that has hope, or gives you clarity that it might be better to move on.

Too good to leave. by Lynn F. Butler (IL, USA)

5 Stars
September 25, 2009
I was given this book for my birthday, and it was meant as a joke. Well, don't expect rocket-science, but you will appreciate Argov, and you will find that it is useful to be reminded every now and then those things we all women know inside ourselves but sometimes fail to apply. Along with "He's just not that into you" I found this book helpful while I was "in between relationships" and trying to put things into perspective again.

Relationship by Adam A. Simons

5 Stars
September 20, 2009
Having been trying to restore a relationship which had died two years before, I was desperate to find the answers to, why I had not succeeded? And why, after being persistently hurt and heartbroken after every attempt, did I keep going back for more? As a previous reviewer pointed out the book does put much of the blame for an addition to someone on our childhood relationships with our parents and siblings, this may or may not be correct however, even if Mr Halpern is wrong, this will make you see that you are not the first person to suffer this crippling heartache. After reading the first few pages of this book it seemed like someone had switched on the lights, the book described exactly how I had been feeling and knew precisely what I have been going through. My only regret is I did not find this book two years ago when it would have perhaps saved me countless heartaches. Breaking the addition to someone still requires more determination and willpower than anything you will ever do, but the book help you understand, why you feel the way you do, and points out that its not that you are just hopelessly in love, its an addition like drugs, alcohol, cigarettes or any other substance. If you think you may be in a relationship that does not give you all you need, please buy this book it will help either give you the strength to carry on working at it or the determination to leave it behind.

This book is empowering!! Worth it's weight in platinum by Proud Dad

5 Stars
August 10, 2009
I have read this book several times at different points in the last year and a half. Somehow this book jumped out at me at a book store during a time I was down and out, trying to find clarity in a fog of ambivalence. It was one of the initial and one of the best tools I used to decide whether or not it is worth my effort to stay in this marriage. Fear of the unknown is a powerful thing. It took about a year for what I found in this book to really sink in. Even though the answers were clearly laid out it may take some time for you to accept what you are left with when you finish reading the book. I also believe it will set the standard for future relationships as well. I believe it can be beneficial for those who are not considering leaving too. Some reviews say it it gives you an excuse to leave. Well BS because most people that need to read this book are unhappy in the first place or they would not be looking at this book at all. It just puts things into perspective and that is valuable to those who may not have a therapist or friends or family that they feel comfortable to talk to. I wouldn't use this book as my only outlet but it ranks up at the top of the combination of things I used. I am living on my own now and I love it!!!! No more walking on eggshells, no more avoiding to go home because I wasn't ready for the stress, no more explaining every move I make. I love life and this book was a key to achieving what I have now.

A life changer... by J. Potter (Pueblo, CO)

5 Stars
July 28, 2009
As others wrote, this book assisted me in making a confident decision to leave a bad marriage. It helped me more than a marriage counselor telling "us" that we had nothing to work on. It helped me more than an individual therapist telling me, I had already made my decision- I just hadn't recognized it. All were true, and I knew what the right decision was, but this book was the catapult that helped me organize my thoughts and truly evaluate the situation as it was. I have recommended this book to several others who are grappling with similar situations. If you really want to know whether to stay or go- read this book. I have been in a happy, healthy, and wonderful relationship since then- and want everyone to feel the peace that a truly great relationship can bring.

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