Product Description
Nationally recognized expert Robert Emery applies his twenty-five years of experience as a researcher, therapist, and mediator to offer parents a new road map to divorce. Dr. Emery shows how our powerful emotions and the way we handle them shape how we divorce—and whether our children suffer or thrive in the long run. His message is hopeful, yet realistic—divorce is invariably painful, but parents can help promote their children’s resilience. With compassion and authority, Dr. Emery explains: • Why it is so hard to really make divorce work • How anger and fighting can keep people from really separating • Why legal matters should be one of the last tasks • Why parental love—and limit setting—can be the best "therapy" for kids • How to talk to children, create workable parenting schedules, and more

CUSTOMER REVIEWS (Average Customer Rating: 4.5 based on 14 reviews)

So many things you can and can't control in a divorce... by Jane Taylor Jacobs (Leesburg, VA)

4 Stars
February 24, 2009
This book helps put into solid perspective what you can at least have some heavy influence over in a divorce situation - your kids' understanding of the divorce and their capacity for coping based on how the parents manage themselves and the expectations of their children throughout the whole process. I read this two years ago during a very tumultuous time and felt better prepared to talk to my (then) 7 year old son about what was happening in our lives. It is vital that both parents read this book and get on the same page with a communication strategy for the kids. The author writes in a refreshingly straightforward manner not found in most books dealing with the trauma of separation and divorce. He helps you move beyond the fear and get to a place of practical thinking. Highly recommended if you're even thinking of going down the road of separation/divorce.

Down to earth advice by Steven J. Scheinin (Maryland)

4 Stars
January 27, 2009
Being a Maryland Trial Lawyer, my practice is mostly domestic and divorce law. Dr. Emery's book, The Truth about Children and Divorce, is a down to earth book telling both parents and their children how to deal with the emotions of separation and divorce. I highly recommend this book.

well done by living free (Sierra Vista, Arizona USA)

4 Stars
August 16, 2008
This was helpful and provided direction. It provided very straight forward advice during a shaky time. Recommend it.

Great by N. Ellender

5 Stars
November 30, 2007
I would recommend this book for anyone that is even thinking of getting a separation or divorce. Some of it seems like common sense, but when you are going through the trials of a divorce or separation, common sense can go out the window.

Still working through this one by K. Arnold (Southeastern USA)

3 Stars
November 12, 2007
I needed some words to use to tell my teen-aged daughter and pre-teen son about our divorce. Dr. Emery wrote it is important to tell children in this age who initiated the divorce, and I used a his words, almost to the letter. So far, that has backfired with my daughter, who is very, very angry with me. I still believe the book will be a good reference, but I am ambivalent about taking his advice quite so literally.

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