| View Larger Image | Obsessive Love: When It Hurts Too Much to Let Go | Paperbackby Susan Forward (Author), Craig Buck (Author)
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| | Binding: | Paperback | | Publisher: | Bantam | | Page Count: | 288 Pages | | Publication Date: | January 02, 2002 | | Sales Rank: | 45,574th |
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Is it impossible to let go — despite the pain?• Do you yearn for someone who is not physically or emotionally available to you?• Do you believe that if you love him enough he will have to love you?• When you feel insecure, does it drive you only to want her more?• Do you find yourself phoning repeatedly or waiting long hours for the phone to ring?Do you wish someone would let go of you?• Does an ex-lover or ex-spouse refuse to believe that it’s over?• Do you receive unwanted phone calls, letters, presents, or visits?• Is this pursuit of you creating so much anxiety that it affects your physical or emotional well-being?In this invaluable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward presents vivid case histories as well as the real-life voices of men and women caught in the grip of obsessive passion.Whether you’re an obsessive lover or the target of such an obsession, here is a proven, step-by-step program that shows you how to recognize the “connection compulsion,” what causes it, and how to break its hold on your life so that you can go on to build healthy, lasting, and pain-free relationships. |
CUSTOMER REVIEWS (Average Customer Rating: 4.5 based on 25 reviews)
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Most helpful book for my problem I've ever read by J. Nielsen (Corona, CA United States)  5 Stars
September 28, 2009
I've been an obsessive lover for 23 years, ever since I was in elementary school. I've always become super obsessed with a particular girl, thinking I have to have her in order to be happy, and I can never be happy without her. A few times I told a girl about my feelings toward her and was rejected, and once it caused me to attempt suicide. I've been suicidal over girls four times.
This book explains the nature of obsessive love, what kind of things it can cause a person to do, and it has a large section directed toward 'targets' of obsessive love. And most importantly are the last few chapters with numerous explanations and exercises for overcoming or gaining control over the problem. You have to do the exercises to benefit from this book, and she says multiple times that you might want to get a professional therapist in addition to reading the book and doing the exercises she has you do. She also makes it clear that not every exercise will benefit every person, and that each person should do what works for them.
After finishing the book I feel I understand my problems so much better. I didn't know that the severe anxiety I feel around attractive girls is due to a fear of rejection, which comes from having felt rejected by my parents when I was young. Because of this book I have, at the author's suggestion, taken up some activities that I enjoyed when I was younger that I haven't done for ten years or more. Having things to do that you enjoy that occupy your mind, and spending time with people you aren't obsessed with are important, as the author explains.
I especially liked her idea of writing out a 'eulogy' for the death of your relationship with the person you are obsessing over. I actually wrote 13 eulogies, for the 13 people I have been the most obsessed with in my life. I liked the idea of imagining it all being lowered into a grave and grieving over the loss of something that I had been so sure would have made me happy.
If you suspect you may be an obsessive lover, or if you suspect you are the target of someone who is, this book is a must-read.
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accepting and understanding by kristi 5 Stars
September 21, 2009
This book is awesome and I would recommend it to anyone who is having problems letting go as it will most likely happen in the next relaionship. . I wish I had read it 25 years ago when I first fell in love and found myself having trouble moving on after each relationship fell apart. There is a pattern ... this book brings it to light and helps you to understand this behavior and know that it can be fixed once you acknowledge and recognize it. By reading other peoples problems with obsessive behaviors it made it easy for me to look and accept my own, deal with it and look forward to letting go of this disruptive and unhealthy behavior immediatly!This is a keeper and one I will re-read again!!
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Extremely Insightful by A. Mason (CA) 5 Stars
July 18, 2009
Popular culture tends to paint obsessive love as a desirable experience. This book strips off those blinders.
I have owned 'Obsessive Love' for many years and consider it a stormy relationship advise goldmine. I let my sister borrow it earlier this year, and she was just as amazed as me. The format is easy to read, highly informative, and covers a surprising assortment of circumstances, types of obsession, warning signs, and emotional pitfalls.
The toughest part about the book? -following the assertive advice it offers in part three. No matter what additional help or support a person may need, having the guts to work through part three, can, and has in my own experience, yield life changing results.
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Useful information... by Book Worm  3 Stars
October 17, 2008
The book was easy to read and simple to understand. I would consider it to be a good book for beginners (as an introduction to obsessive love), but I would probably supplement it with other reading material.
I bought the book because I was the target of an obsessive lover and I wanted to understand his behavior and the root of obsessive love a bit more. I ended up learning a bit about him and myself after reading this book. I related a lot to Karen's story...she and I are what the author calls "co-obsessive lovers..." we have some obsessive tendencies of our own (also our indecisiveness and weak characters contribute to their obsessiveness). Anyhow, I am no longer with my partner, but after reading the book I was motivated to seek help so that I don't make the same mistake in the future.
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obsessive love by Mr. A. Silano (Adelaide South Australia)  1 Stars
May 24, 2008
I read this book about 6 yrs ago. At the time I was obsessed with my ex partner.When I started reading this book I totally related to what I was reading . By the end of this book I was left fustrated and confused.The exercises that were suggested At the end seemed simple enough but I found for myself these were totally inadequate and I was left alot more alone and depressed than before I started. Since then I have done alot more reading in love and sex addition and find that this subject is very complexed. I did 5 weeks in rehab for sex and love addition and have been a member of a twelve step fellowship for the last 2 yrs. Through this work I have come across well informed literature which has shown me a path to help heal and understand what I am going through and suggests that this work cannot be done alone. I am 43yrs old and for the first time in my life I feel contentment and present. There is for me alot more literature out there that far outways this book that I personally would not recommend it.
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