Product Description
Are you in love--or addicted? How to know when to call it quits...and how to find the courage to call it quits.

Are you unable to leave a love relationship even though it gives you more pain than joy? Your judgment and self-respect tell you to end it, but still, to your dismay, you hang on. You are addicted--to a person. Now there is an insightful, step-by-step guide to breaking that addiction--and surviving the split. Drawing on dozens of provocative case histories, psychotherapist Howard Helpern explains to you:

Why you can get addicted to a person.

Why and how you may try to deceive yourself. ("He really loves me, he just doesn't know how to show it.")

How you can recognize the symptoms of a bad relationship.

How to deal with the power moves and guilt trips your partner uses to hold you.

Why strong feelings of jealousy do not mean you are "in love."

How to get through the agonizing breakup period--without going back.

How not to get caught in such a painful relationship again.

From the Paperback edition.

CUSTOMER REVIEWS (Average Customer Rating: 4.5 based on 48 reviews)

life changing book! by Don Wilner

5 Stars
June 17, 2009
I bought and read this book about 1 year after ending my marriage of 18 years. At that time, I was pretty sure that I did the right thing, but still filled with doubts. I wish I had had a copy of this book when I was going through the divorce.

Anyway, it helped me tremendously! I was able to identify many aspects of the relationship that were unhealthy. It also helped me to understand why the dynamic of the relationship was pretty much hopeless. And unlike the reviewer before me, I didn't come to the conclusion that my ex-wife was the only one with problems. The book definitely helped me to look inside of myself. I was able to understand a lot of ways in which my thinking and behavior was dysfunctional as well.

Finally, this book is not just a how-to manual for breaking up. It also provides tools for sizing-up a relationship so that you might know if its salvageable!

Highly recommended!

Major turning point... by anonymous book critic (USA)

5 Stars
May 06, 2009
I can't emphasize enough how important this book was for me in recognizing how and why I have been picking the "wrong men" all my adult life, and the past three men in particular! :-) This book literally enabled me to end what was becoming a very dead end relationship with a man who couldn't commit, but couldn't quite let go either. Whew. Glad to be done with that. Yes, it was painful but strangely I feel better than ever and I thank this book for that. I didn't actually think it was possible to let go of this last one, but after reading this book, everything has changed. I can't remember feeling this light...

Helped me stay away from an unhealthy relationship! by g3heavenlyfruit (Los Angeles, CA)

5 Stars
March 30, 2009
This book and another one "Is it love or is it addiction?" saved my life! I had been having this on and off rollercoaster rides relationship with a man for 5 years and I'm reading these two books and I think I'm finally able to have real closure this time. It talks about recognizing our "Attachment Hunger" and to fulfill that hunger from the inside of ourselves in order to break the love addiction/attachment to another person which is really the core of love addiction. If you are in a very painful relationship but couldn't leave the dysfuncitonal relationship that caused you so much pain, then read this book!!

How to break your addiction to a person - not recommended by D. Hogan

1 Stars
February 03, 2009
I lost interest half way through this book, as I do not agree with the concepts within it. It seems as though the entire book is based on if your mother left you for 3 minutes in the crib when you were a baby crying for milk. There is not 1 mom out there who was sitting next to their baby 24/7 ready to serve them, so does that mean every single human being out there has addiction problems.

An excellent well rounded approach by Jesse McClure (Colorado, USA)

5 Stars
October 11, 2008
This title is amazing in its well rounded approach to dealing with addiction to another person. Using both stories and psychological analysis it is able to not only help you understand where the feelings of addiction come from, but it also helps you realize that you can overcome these crippling emotional ties. I found myself interested in the progress and stories of the individuals in the book which made the book a very easy read. While many self-help books can be weighty and difficult to finish, I found myself wanting to pick this book up again and again.

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