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A groundbreaking, practical program for transforming troubled relationships into positive ones“This is the best book on relationships I have ever read. . . . John Gottman has decoded the subtle secrets that can either enrich or destroy the quality of our ties with others.” Daniel B. Wile, Ph.D., author of After the Fight: Using Your Disagreements to Build a Stronger Relationship“John Gottman is our leading explorer of the inner world of relationships. In The Relationship Cure, he has found gold once again.”William J. Doherty, Ph.D., author of Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World That Pulls Us Apart“When he says his five steps will help you build better connections with the people you care about, you know that they have been demonstrated to work.” E. Mavis Heatherington, Ph.D., professor of psychology, University of VirginiaFrom the country’s foremost relationship expert and New York Times bestselling author Dr. John M. Gottman comes a powerful, simple five-step program, based on twenty years of innovative research, for greatly improving all of the relationships in your life—with spouses and lovers, children, siblings, and even your colleagues at work. In The Relationship Cure, Dr. Gottman:* Reveals the key elements of healthy relationships, emphasizing the importance of what he calls “emotional connection”* Introduces the powerful new concept of the emotional “bid,” the fundamental unit of emotional connection* Provides remarkably empowering tools for improving the way you bid for emotional connection and how you respond to others’ bids

CUSTOMER REVIEWS (Average Customer Rating: 4.5 based on 19 reviews)

Need help? by S. Coleman (Vernon, CT USA)

5 Stars
May 25, 2009
This is a book that everyone should read whether entering a new relationship or trying to get along in an older one. Great advice.

Three Relationship Keys by Dr. Wayne S.

5 Stars
April 19, 2009
Evaluate all of your relationships, self and others from these three simple perspectives: (1) Turning Against--those who criticize; (2) Turning Away--those who do not engage directly; (3) Turning Toward--those who truly respond to you with empathy. Then start pruning away the dead wood!

Found it difficult to read. Couldn't get past first page by Foo Chi Hian (Singapore)

1 Stars
February 19, 2009
It doesn't read like a novel for sure. As a buyer with an obvious need, I was looking an answer from the first page. guess i have to finish the book before my problems could be solved

The Key to Relationship Success by Cheryl D. (Portland, OR)

5 Stars
January 01, 2009
I first learned of John Gottmah, PhD when I heard him speak in Seattle with H.H. the Dalai Lama earlier this year. The topic of the seminar was parenting, and I fell in love with his insights and simplistic approaches. This is the first book of his I've read, and I loved it. I found it very profound, yet surprisingly simple. Pros: *I liked the explanation of 'the bid.' It's a basic theory, but it seems to be forgotten after a while in a relationship. *I liked the chapter on 'emotional heritage.' The self evaluations are extremely helpful in taking a look at your past and how your family dynamics can come into play in your adult years. *I liked how the information in this book can be applied to any type of relationship: romantic, friendship, family / sibling, and co-workers. Cons: *Some of the information seems like it should be common sense, but it also seems necessary for the author to state it clearly in this book because it seems to get lost in so many relationships, This book seems like an undertaking when you first flip through it, but I found that it read very fluently and fairly quickly. I would recommend it to everyone, especially those wanting to strengthen the love in their life.

Got tired of the male bashing. by Salvador Minuchin (IN)

1 Stars
October 07, 2008
The author might try to appeal to men a little more. Any family therapist knows that rule #1 is "Do not take sides." Your job is not to find out who's got the problem, or who is to blame. Your job is to recognize the "problem patterns" into which the family system falls again and again. The concept of the emotional bid is very simple and effective, but that doesn't get a book 5 stars. The rest of the book was Gottman's speculations and "command system" formulas. Reminds me of all the other authors who have done the same thing, cataloging people according to their primary motives...Napoleon Hill, Anthony Robbins, Carl Jung, Myers and Briggs, David DeAngelo, etc. Obviously the emotional command systems notion wasn't "discovered" in his Love Lab. He invented that lens and now lazily sees all human relations through it. I found it telling that in the dozens of examples, every one of them portrayed the man as the one at fault and the woman as the innocent damsel trying her best. A man simply snaps at his wife. That's it. Tell the same story about a woman and the reader gets a full page of backstory justifying her inconsideration. And the irony is, Gottman's research showed that husbands in happy marriages "turned toward" their wives more often than husbands in unhappy marriages. But not wives. Whether their marriages were happy or unhappy, they "turned toward" their husbands the same amount. Of course, that means that marriages will benefit most if MEN read and apply this chapter, but not women. The problem with the entire book is, his research may be sound, but his conclusions are flawed. Gottman committed the unforgivable (as it is called in the statistical coven). He assigned a CAUSAL LINK where there was none. OF COURSE their are more emotional bids in happy marriages. Gottman claims that the emotional bids lead to (cause) happy marriages. The problem is, it is just as likely that happy marriages lead to more emotional bids (but not the other way around). Be on the lookout for titles of his next book: How Weight Gain Causes Overeating: the surprising truth behind overeating; More Firefighters Fighting the Fire Leads to More Fire Damage; Ice Cream Causes Drowning and Crime (ice cream sales rise with drowning deaths and crime because more ice cream is sold in the summer months). Therefore, emotional bidding causes nothing. It is the natural fruit of a happy marriage. Something ELSE caused the marriage to be happy (I'm sure you can think of dozens of plausible causes).

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