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Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way
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Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way | Paperback

by M. Gary Neuman (Author)

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Binding:  Paperback
Publisher:  Random House
Edition:  1st Edition
Page Count:  480 Pages
Publication Date:  August 01, 1999
Sales Rank:  5,896th

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Divorce is painful and confusing. Perhaps now more than ever, you want to give your child all the love, support, and guidance he or she needs, but everything seems harder and more complicated. Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way can help. Based on Gary Neuman's phenomenally successful Sandcastles program, which has helped more than fifty thousand children cope with divorce, this warm, empathetic guide shows you:


How to build a co-parenting relationship--even when you think you can't

When you or your child should see a therapist

Age-appropriate scripts for addressing sensitive issues

What to do when a parent moves away

How to stop fighting with your ex-spouse

How to navigate the emotional turmoil of custody and visitation

How to help your child deal with change

How to cope with kids' common fears about separation

How to introduce significant others into the family and help your child cope with a new stepfamily

More than a hundred pieces of artwork from children of divorce will help you appreciate how kids perceive the experience. Dozens of special activities and fun exercises will help you communicate and get closer to your child. This guide shows you that divorce need not be an inevitable blot on children's lives, but an opportunity for them to grow and strengthen the bonds with their parents.

Amazon.com Review
Kids tend to blame themselves when parents divorce. The Sandcastles workshop--now mandatory in over a dozen counties throughout the United States--is a half-day group session for children of divorce between the ages of 6 and 17. This intensive workshop helps kids open up and deal with their feelings through drawings, games, poetry, role playing, and other activities. Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce details many of the workshop exercises, all designed to increase communication, understanding, and togetherness between parents and kids. The book is also packed full of suggestions on everything from the best way to break the divorce news to a child (it differs according to age group) to facing the holidays, visitation, custody arrangements, anger, discipline, co-parenting, single parenting, overcompensation, sorrow, custody fights, and much more.

Author Gary Neuman never patronizes or preaches, and although he is technically a child advocate, he proves himself to be an advocate of every member of the divorcing family. Neuman takes a hands-on approach and believes that children need not be permanently scarred by divorce--that with work and time, divorce can actually become a positive force for change. A powerful tool for protecting children caught amid parental struggles, Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce should be required reading in all divorcing families. --Ericka Lutz



CUSTOMER REVIEWS (Average Customer Rating: 4.5 based on 30 reviews)

Great great book by Denise Filley (Overland Park, KS) 5 Stars
May 23, 2009
This book is so useful to parents in understanding the child and how to help them. Great resources and ideas...
Some other books to consider as well:
Assessment and Treatment Activities for Children, Adolescents, and Families: Practitioners Share Their Most Effective TechniquesCreative Interventions for Children of DivorceCreative Interventions for Troubled Children & Youth

helping children of divorce by Liana Lowenstein (Toronto, Canada) 4 Stars
December 19, 2008
This book is geared to divorced parents but there is information that is helpful for counselors and therapists as well. Some of the activities can be used by therapists in counseling sessions with children and their parents.

Other helpful books for mental health professionals working with children of divorce include:

Creative Interventions for Children of Divorce

Complete Group Counseling Program for Children of Divorce: Ready-To-Use Plans & Materials for Small & Large Groups, Grades 1-6

Great help when you need it by Michelle (Houston, TX) 5 Stars
November 17, 2008
This book is great and gives you the help you need when you need it. Even if you think you have all the answers this offers some great tips on things to say to your child that they need to hear.

An Excellent Choice for a Tough Subject by T. Y. Erskine (Southern California, USA) 5 Stars
October 24, 2008
Divorce is not a pleasant experience and it affects the entire family. Mature grown-ups can become the ugliest, nastiest, most bitter creatures around. And despite how much they may put on a good face in front of their kids, kids see through all the subterfuge. They are much better at reading the non-verbal communications than any of us would imagine.

Neuman's book is a sensible, positive, and down-right amazing approach to dealing with the most critical individuals involved in this process: our kids. His Sandcastle's program has had excellent success for years. Neuman addresses what is developmentally appropriate for each age group, helping the reader understand quickly the unique communication needs from the littlest people in our lives to our teens. Understanding this helps parents establish appropriate communication modalities and connect with their kids through this incredibly challenging time.

Make no mistake about it: this is not a book that addresses reconciliation. This is a compassionate, straight-forward book that guides you on the path to helping your children heal effectively and grow into healthy young people.



Must have book by T. Hopp (California, USA) 5 Stars
October 19, 2008
This book is a 'must have' for couples going through a divorce who want their children to adjust as well as possible. It is well written, easy to understand, and has tons of examples. It helped a difficult situation become a little bit easier.

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