Product Description
When Monica’s friend Katie begins to call her names and humiliate her in front of other kids at school, she feels betrayed and isolated. But with help from her mother, Monica reclaims her confidence from a bully disguised as her friend. This wonderful resource for children, parents, teachers, and counselors includes helpful tips, discussion questions, and additional information for any child who has experienced relational aggression.

CUSTOMER REVIEWS (Average Customer Rating: 4.5 based on 28 reviews)

Very Simplistic by K. Bauer (Evanston, IL USA)

2 Stars
September 10, 2009
I purchased this book for my 9 year old daughter and found it to be overly simplistic. Very short story (pitched at about a 2nd grade reading level) with only one practical suggestion about what to do. There was a list of 8 tactics at the end, but they were so generic (tell the bully to stop; report it to an adult; use humor to deflect bullying...) and so lacking in examples that my daughter's response to every one was "I tried that; I already do that." This type of bullying typically occurs when girls hit fourth grade through middle school, yet the content of the book comes across as something you would read to a much younger child. Very disappointing.

My Secret Bully = A "Frenemy" by Lynn B. Foster (Brandon, FL USA)

5 Stars
September 02, 2009
I have used this book in my third grade classroom to enlighten my students on an aspect of bullying that isn't wildly discussed. We usually deem a bully as someone who is beligerent, loud and ALWAYS cruel. But after reading this book, children begin to see that a friend might also be a bully in disguise. Consult Webster's dictionary for the word "frenemy." A frenemy is one who pretends to be a friend but is actually an enemy. This book openly discusses just that subject - having a "friend" who in reality is an enemy.

Relational Bullying--great book! by C. Blair Skinner, LMFT (Broomfield, CO)

4 Stars
April 16, 2009
It is fantastic to finally see a book out there for school age girls who are victims of relational bullying. My only concern about this book is how quickly the matter seems to resolve in the end. I think the author does a great job setting it up, describing how relational bullying happens. I just wish there was a little more attention paid to the longer term impact on the victim as well as the difficulty of the situation in general. Overall a great book and one I'm thrilled to have in my library!

My Secret Bully by A. Paige (Waynesboro, VA)

5 Stars
April 08, 2009
The book came in excellent condition and has been an amazing conversation starter for classroom meetings with 5th and 6th graders!

My Secret Bully by Counseling Sha (Longivew, Texas)

5 Stars
January 28, 2009
I am so amazed, every scenario in this book was happening in my school. The children listened as I read the book and the eyes, the facial expressions, the comments, and their reviews were astounding. This book along with Ms Ludwig's other book has been a valuable resource for our Anti-bullying curriculum.

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