| View Larger Image | Why We Pick the Mates We Do: A Step-by-step Program To Select a Better Partner or Improve the Relationship You're Already In (Psychogenetics System) | Paperbackby Anne Teachworth (Author)
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| | Binding: | Paperback | | Publisher: | Gestalt Institute Press | | Edition: | 5thth Edition | | Page Count: | 252 Pages | | Publication Date: | February 14, 1998 | | Sales Rank: | 346,152th |
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Why We Pick The Mates We Do is an interactive book that begins with an easy-to-take Selection Test that is guaranteed to give you the most amazing insight into the real reasons you have selected or rejected your past and present partners and predict how your current relationship will turn out before you get married. If you have ever been unable to find the kind of relationship partner you really want, don't settle for less or give up altogether. Taking the Selection Test will not only reveal to you why you have been magnetically attracted to the wrong partners in the past, but will also give you methods to release yourself from attractions to people who are not good to you or for you. This system is the result of my twenty five years as a couple counselor and has already proven itself with thousands of people as the most important key to making successful life-mate choices. This new method of couple counseling consistently gets dramatic improvements in relationshi! ps from selection to solution. The book helps both singles and married couples to finally uncover the real problem that keeps them from having happy relationships and shows them how to reprogram their imprinted negative couple patterns. |
CUSTOMER REVIEWS (Average Customer Rating: 5.0 based on 17 reviews)
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grt but alot of participation required by Andy (Short Hills, NJ)  3 Stars
October 29, 2006
This book is certainly very good and very different then any other self help book on the market. However, to gain from it you must be willing to do it's total workbook component to it which is a lot of the book. I usually like or love books like that if there really good ones however, this one requires you to be able to get assistance from atleast 2 parents and 1 previous or ex husband, wife, or significant other. Not only that but the more group help you get with this very possibly the more this book will likely help you. It also forces you to remember alot of your past so if you don't and don't have relatives to remember it for you I don't recommend this book. The advice in it could be unnusual and right but most of it is given based on your grt workbook participation. There is more then a few inventories/tests in here. Plus, it's pricy. The other good thing is most of the advice you can rarely if ever see elsewhere so the author obviously did her homework and research.So unlike most self help books this book isn't at all simple but that's what makes it so unique and such a benefit to read!
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The Psychogenetic System of Couple Counseling  5 Stars
July 18, 2004
Psychogenetics is the science of Genetic Psychology, a study of the DNA inherited personality traits that were handed down from one generation to the other. In WHY WE PICK THE MATES WE DO, there is an 8 question Selection Test which explores the reader's inherited Inner Adult and Inner Mate personality and behavorial traits, both explains WHY and identifies HOW these imprinted Inner Couple interactional couple patterns were learned from one's parents in the first 10 years of life. Neither these adult traits nor these couple relationship patterns were a conscious choice. They are the results of a Psychogenetic trance.Most relationships are a result of transgenerational family imprints which is what Psychogenetics is all about. Actually your problems have been around a lot longer than you think. Indeed while your conscious mind was searching for a PERFECT MATE, your unconscious imprint was searching for a PERFECT MATCH. Following its established pre-imprinted imperatives, your unconscious mind rejected some partners and selected others for you, regardless of whether that particular partner could help you live happily ever after or not. You may have gotten involved with the wrong type over and over again, gotten into the same unsolvable revolving arguments and had one relationship after another dissolve without ever knowing what happened or why one or both of you changed so much after you got married or became parents. WHY WE PICK THE MATES WE DO contains numerous proven exercises to help you, the reader, erase your inherited negative imprints and re-imprint positive attraction, selection and interactional patterns so you can reverse the unhappy relationship pattern you are already in with your current partner or stop repeating the same mistakes in mate selection. The Psychogenetic Sysem in the book will show you how to locate and deactivate the hidden landmines left over from your parents' relationship wars, and stop 'things that go boom in the night.' The approach can also help you change your imprint if you are single now so you will automatically be attracted to the right type of partner next time and be able to interact in more successful ways than before.One of the best uses of this book is as a pre-marital guide especially for people who are always attracted to the wrong person or whose relationships keep turning out badly. It will explain what 'chemistry' really is and how to change the type of person you are attracted to so that you can fall in love with someone who is good to you and for you, and not the same old type that is bad to and for you.Now you can find out BEFORE you get involved with a potential partner what your relationship will be like AFTER you two get involved or married. And you can also predict BEFORE you have children if that step will improve or ruin your couple relationship. You can know ahead of time what type of parents each of you will be. Take the guesswork out of it.If you are already in a relationship or married, WHY WE PICK THE MATES WE DO can not only help you understand the unconscious imperatives in your imprinted Inner Couple relationship pattern that forced you to pick the partner you did, but locate and deactivate the hidden landmines that have caused the trouble between you, and the imprinted trance-ferences that produced the changes in you and your partner's personality AFTER you get married and became PARENTS. The insights are amazing and the instructions on how to reprogram your relationship are specific and effective. Finally, here's a way to SOLVE your relationship problems instead of DISSOLVING one relationship after another.DON'T JUST GET INVOLVED WITH YOUR PARTNER, GET EVOLVED!
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A Must Read for all counseling professionals by Deirdre Lowery--Givens, MS, MPS, BCSAC, CGC (Kenner, LA USA) 5 Stars
April 30, 2004
As a Masters Level trained counselor (Loyola University N.O.), and fifteen years counseling experience: Anne Teachworth's Psychogenetic Theory rocks the world for any professional counselor seeking to increase their effectiveness when providing services to couples, families, young folks just starting out their search for a mate, or divorcees who fear getting into another relationship etc... Anne's theory is truly innovative! From a managed care point of view, Psychogenetic Counseling will cut the amount of time spent in couseling. Professionals would do well to contact Anne and make arrangements to enter her Psychogenetic Training program. To those professionals who draw upon Imago or Family Systems - Anne's Theory is quit a step above!
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Anne reads excerpts from her book 5 Stars
March 30, 2003
Take the amazing Selection Test and find out the real subconcious reasons for your attraction, rejection, selection and interactional patterns.....why you pick the mates you do...and don't....why you are attracted to the wrong type of partners, why you keep having the same problems in relationships, why opposites attract and what happens when they do, how to change that troublesome chemistry so you can live happitly ever after..........
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The best book ever on relationships 5 Stars
March 30, 2003
NOTE: Check the other five star reviews on the first book listed on this site.........
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