As the recent war with Iran erupts into one of the most consequential military conflicts in the Middle East military families are facing unprecedented stress and uncertainty. A new longitudinal study, initiated in the aftermath of the outbreak of the war that began on October 7, 2023, tracked parents during the first seven months of the conflict and found that children’s behavior problems are significantly linked to parental burnout experienced by the at-home caregiver , regardless of whether a partner is deployed or still at home. While mothers with deployed partners initially reported higher exhaustion, their burnout levels stabilized over time, likely due to targeted support systems, whereas mothers whose partners remained at home experienced a rise in burnout as the conflict persisted. The findings suggest that protecting children’s resilience during a large-scale conflict like the war with Iran requires bolstering the emotional resources and external support available to primary caregivers , so they can avoid the depletion that negatively impacts family well-being.
A new study published in Psychiatry Research and conducted by Dr. Mor Keleynikov and Prof. Dana Lassri from Hebrew University , together with Prof. Noga Cohen and Dr. Joy Benatov from the University of Haifa and Prof. Reuma Gadassi Polack from Bar Ilan University reveals that the critical factor in child resilience isn't just safety - it’s the prevention of parental burnout .
The study found that military deployment acts like an amplifier. If the at-home parent is managing to stay emotionally present, children tend to show relatively adaptive functioning despite the broader context of stress. However, when that parent hits a wall, feeling "burned out," emotionally distant, or completely exhausted by the relentless demands of war-time parenting, the child’s behavioral and emotional struggles tend to spike.
"Parental burnout emerges as a key factor," Dr. Keleynikov explains, acting as a bridge between the stress of a partner's deployment and the mental health of the children.
To understand these family dynamics, the research team conducted a deep dive into the lives of 123 Israeli mothers over the first seven months of the Israel-Hamas war that began in October 2023.
They didn't just look at a single snapshot in time. Instead, they checked in with these mothers twice: once at the very beginning of the war and again half a year later. This allowed the team to see how stress "evolved." The mothers represented a cross-section of families, with about 28% having partners who were deployed to active duty. To get a clear picture of the children's well-being, parents answered detailed questions about their child’s behavior, specifically looking for signs of aggression, anxiety, or physical complaints like unexplained stomach aches.
By comparing mothers with deployed partners to those whose partners stayed home, the researchers could isolate how the "dual threat" of war and separation changes a family's internal dynamics.
The most surprising discovery was a shift in who felt the most drained. While mothers of deployed partners started the war with high levels of parental burnout, their burnout levels stayed relatively stable over time. Meanwhile, mothers whose partners were not deployed reported higher burnout levels as the war dragged on.
The researchers point to a possible reason: "targeted support". While the government provided military families with childcare refunds and mental health resources, civilian families were often left to navigate the "new normal" of a nation at war without the same safety net.
The takeaway for the mainstream public is clear: parenting in a crisis is an "endurance sport." When we are emotionally depleted, our ability to act as a buffer for our children diminishes. The study suggests that supporting a caregiver’s mental health is not a luxury, it is the most effective way to protect the next generation.
As the researchers conclude, the goal for support programs should be to help parents regain their balance, ensuring they have the "recovery capital" to stay present for their children, even when the world outside is in turmoil.
Psychiatry Research
10.1016/j.psychres.2026.116943
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